Observation without Judgment…In-forming & Being In-formed
What better way to love than to be gentle with yourself - observe yourself without judgment
This quote from Sean Clayton brings me back to the process of forgiveness and into more awareness of how to practice. It's about acceptance and forgiveness ..."Can I accept everything in my life and can I forgive everything that's ever happened to me? Can I forgive myself for the challenges that I have set in front of me?" It's not about forgetting and not learning. Rather it's "if I can't forgive then I can end up constantly in trauma around say people who look or act like the person associated with it, or the experience associated with it."
The capacity for learning through “observation without judgment,” direct communication, and experience—and even more profoundly through in-forming and being in-formed (or revelation and inspiration)—is, I believe, innate within us. Rather than learning through contrast, struggle, and suffering, we have the ability to evolve in a way that is more fluid, natural, and aligned with our deeper truth. (Inspired by the book: A Course of Love, by Marie Perron)
A central focus of my work is creating space for people to tap into their own inner revelation and inspiration. By holding space for observation without judgment, direct communication, and direct experience with the inner divine, spirit, or Self, individuals can engage with their personal evolution in a way that transcends struggle and suffering.
We have long witnessed and, at times, lived through the struggle-and-suffering approach. Yet, we have also glimpsed how glorious it is to evolve through revelation. The ability to observe without judgment—ah! What a joy when it happens! It removes the notion that growth must always be "work."
How do I cultivate this for myself? In part, through the practice of creating space for others. Presence is one of my gifts, and throughout my years in corporate environments, conflict resolution, and community engagement, I found that presence was essential. Now, it is even more foundational in my personal and professional practice. But, of course, I also have my own inner progression that is always unfolding. I engage with other practitioners—sound healers and beyond—to support my journey. And pay attention to who and what shows up in my life - and how they show up - what is being reflected to me? I work to follow the trail of my thoughts to uncover where I may be creating struggle and suffering for myself, opening to allowing those patterns to shift. I actively call in clarity and guidance to deepen my understanding and expand my awareness - and I have had many people and experiences that have helped me expand beyond previous limits. After decades in the corporate world, where the struggle-and-suffering model was often dominant, I deeply appreciate the alternative path of observation without judgment and the ultimate in-forming and being informed (a little like telepathy). Yet, it still feels like a path, a journey yet to continue. And sometimes I don’t do the practices - yet, that to is an opportunity for acceptance and forgiveness of myself.
Mari Perron, in A Course of Love, writes:
"This desire to engage in struggle has nothing to do with what you are responsible for. It is merely your ego’s attempt to involve you in distractions that keep you from your real responsibility."
Struggle is not the same as striving. Striving implies effort toward a vision or intention, whereas struggle suggests an opposing force, an obstacle that must be overcome.
The evolution through observation without judgment and “in-forming and being in-formed” is not about rejecting struggle and suffering, but rather encompassing it all. If all potentials exist in every moment, what determines the experience we ultimately have? Can we explore this question without taking a stance against struggle and suffering—not resisting them, but simply choosing a different path? Observing without judgment allows us to see struggle and suffering as merely options, not as requirements for growth. Through direct communication and experience, perhaps we open ourselves to greater opportunities for revelation and inspiration.
Do I have this all figured out? Not yet. Perhaps I never fully will in this lifetime—or perhaps I will.
When I first encountered “A Course of Love”, I resisted it (struggle and suffering anyone?). The first half of the book triggered me immensely, so I began reading the last third first, which I found illuminating. That allowed me to return and read the entire book with a more open perspective. I appreciate that I can benefit from the wisdom of others without needing to adopt every part of their teachings as absolute truth. A single teaching does not need to hold the entire answer; rather, it can add depth and expansion to my understanding.
Matias de Stefano offers this perspective:
"The Universe was made with questions. And you think you are here to bring answers. The only thing that opens the mind is the question, not the answer. You are here to bring consciousness on the question, not the answer."
De Stefano also speaks about Ontocracy—a system based on the power of the being, rather than democracy, which is centered on the power of the people. He describes a shift in how we organize society, one in which individuals recognize their inner power and unique role in collective evolution. As he explains on the Next Soul Level podcast, this requires each person to prepare their own being (Ontos) in order to contribute fully.
Freddy Silva shares an inscription from an ancient temple in Palenque, Mexico:
"We will go on building temples until people realize they are the temple."
This could also be a message about technology: ‘We will go on building technology until people realize they are the technology’, at least this is my sense of it. So often, we focus externally, unaware of the immense capacity within our own human body, soul, and spirit. Anita Moorjani’s story and message is a reminder that we mostly are only aware of the tip of the iceberg.
When we shift away from victim consciousness—when we recognize that all things are our creation, that all aspects of our experience are reflections of ourselves—we gain the opportunity to strive without struggle and to experience life with ease.
By embracing observation without judgment, direct communication, and direct experience, we open ourselves to the profound and joyful unfolding of our being.
