‘Letting Go’
Releasing & ‘Letting Go’
Fall ... a Time of Harvest ... and well... 'Letting Go'
Often we hear of releasing or letting go; what we no longer wish to have in our life. This is not always clear though, on a practical level, what that might look like - what exactly are we letting go and how do we? The image above was captured during the magical little storm on October 16. As the 'winds' came through the leaves just seemed to release so easily, no struggle. Of course there are many ways we can look at releasing, the following are just some explorations.
It seems the 'winds' have come through and shown me a few things over recent weeks and months to let go of ... although I can't say it's as effortless.
Whatever we are ‘letting go’ of is not us, we are never letting go of our true Self, but we can release what is keeping our true essence from expressing, from being seen. We are not our stories, our bodies, our thoughts; whatever we feel shame or guilt about is not our true essence. What keeps us consumed with things that don't really matter going forward?
The following are just some considerations and explorations into this concept of letting go.. I hold them all lightly with the understanding that as our vibrations shift and we become more conscious our perceptions may open up beyond any understanding or ideas now. Sensing into what resonates, maybe what shifts us in the moment, like a stepping stone along the path, but not the whole path.
Letting go of complaining
On a podcast several weeks ago, someone said she was letting go of complaining, which inspired me. Complaining I find can be subtle - a bit insidious, creeping into our conversations, our mind chatter disguised as something else - possibly contributing to creating ongoing patterns in our life that we don't want rather than imagining and speaking into existence what we do want. Trevor Blake suggests the answer is practicing mentality control. Not that we can control the thoughts that pass through but we can respond to them as often as possible with images of outcomes we do intend, results we want to create. We can choose to speak internally and externally toward what is possible, what we want to experience. And...It's a practice not a perfection.
Letting go of Judgment
Judgment is such deep conditioning and this quote is pretty direct.
"As soon as you believe in good and evil (judgment), you’re going to believe you’re right and the other person is wrong, which is the foundation of every argument and every war that every human’s ever had. Whether it’s a religious war or a war over a right to a territory (or anything else). You believe you have a right to that territory, that land, (or whatever the disagreement is about) and the other person doesn’t because you believe you are better than they are." David Sereda
It seems that judgment is necessary but maybe it's the chicken or egg question. Is it unsafe and therefore we need to judge? Or is it unsafe because we judge or believe we are separate and keep creating or perpetuating the illusion that it is unsafe? It is said that all judgment is self judgment.
Assessment or judgment can seem to occur within us in milliseconds before we may even consciously be aware and it can effect our behaviour and interactions instantly, and the dynamics / energy in a relationship exchange. I was observing Tracy St. Claire in her recent election campaign and my sense of her leadership capacity is her openness and ability to let go of judgment of others, ability to be open and to work with anyone. Inspiring.
Letting go of our addiction to disappointment and drama(?)
A couple weeks ago we were pulling cards at the Cranial Sacral Level 3 class from Sandra Kunz' "Messenger Cards". The 'message' I received:
#19 Owning Our Power - Raven. "The time has come to stand fully in your power as the being of light that you are. The days of allowing ourselves to be distracted from our truth are ending. Giving energy to anything that is not our truth feeds our addictions to disappointment and drama...."
It was very striking for me - addiction to disappointments and dramas in my life? ... um, apparently...🤨! A recent experience was very present and unmistakably in my face. Definitely something I want to let go of! The 'fall winds' have continued to move through encouraging me to release more and more as I seem to not be releasing this so easily.
Culturally we can see this pattern in many areas of life. The news, social media, recent election, politics, etc. ...situations or events where there tends to be drama, or conflict, and disappointment (we've seen some big examples of that over recent years). I prefer the word patterns over addictions but it is definitely easy to see how it can keep us distracted and not in our power. Maybe it's more intense now so we can see it and create something different.
Anger, it turns out, can be a very pivotal and key component of getting to the place of letting go. We might be allowing patterns in our actions, thoughts, relationships, etc that create what we don't want and the emotion of anger can move us to break out of a pattern that is distracting us, keeping us from living fully in our power. Without the anger sometimes we may keep allowing what is not serving us.
Taking time to be present with ourself can bring us back to our power - so that we can recover, reorganize, recreate... Experiences we are having in this current time may be purifying our energy from any energetic baggage we are carrying so we can step into the shifts that are underway for us now. This helps me look past some of what I have been through recently to what I am being prepared for rather than any story I might create about it.
Letting go of our limiting stories
Taking these threads a little further...
Recently I was sharing a story about one of my niece's experience with the birth of her baby to a couple of my friends. They reflected on the question of what telling this story might create in this little boys experience around his early months, how he might carry this story into his life and how it might influence how he saw himself and his worth, his beliefs about himself.
We all have our story, the question is - is it empowering or disempowering? Is it something we want to create more of or is it a pattern of creation we want to release and create from something different?
One of the main reasons I began practicing Sound Healing 13 years ago was because it supported my own inner work without the need for a story. Yet, we love a good story, don't we? ... it forges bonds and entertains us to be able to relate and share our stories with others. And especially in healing work - having stories about our experiences or what is happening during a session has its place. It is not to say that we should never tell a story but it can be a kind of a trap. What stories do we find ourselves repeating? Are they defining or limiting our life? Are the stories giving us an out from truly living our greatest life? Certainly I have some in my own life.
During the Cranial Sacral Therapy Level 3 class I was reminded during the time I got to be on the table and receiving again - the bliss of just allowing the body to reset, no story needed, very little action required as either a giver or a receiver. Giving and receiving simply from a place of presence reminds us that supporting another requires very little doing - our body is a powerful technology containing billions of years of evolutionary wisdom ....
Can I simply be present to others in their experience and feel the connection to them on a level beyond their story or my story? And maybe they are telling their 'story' so they can just be witnessed and then let go of it? Can I see beyond the story (mine or others) to the fear that created it, and even beyond that to the love that heals it?
So if there's any stories we want to let go of or ways any stories may be defining or limiting us - here's to letting them go this fall. Here are a few of the ways I enjoy being in relationship and connection free of disempowering stories:
Love the ways I get to connect with my friends and family - those who get me out dancing, listening to music at the Dream Cafe, hiking and being uplifted in nature, those who find the humor in everything with a joke or a meme (getting together is such a joy!), in our women's circles (love these circles, the ritual and ceremony - so nourishing and restoring), and writing this newsletter to all of you (love writing - feels like I am writing to friends, which is literally true - thank you!).
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